Mother’s Journey: Not Control, the Connection

A conscious path of trust, respect, and letting go of fear.

“There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one.”

— Jill Churchill

What if motherhood wasn’t about control, but about trust? What if our children weren’t blank slates to fill, but wise souls here to guide us too? Here’s my story—a conscious mother’s journey in a world learning to parent differently.

Me as a Mom

What a beautiful and challenging time this is! 🙂

Everything about motherhood feels heightened—the unconditional love, the deep bond, the exhaustion, the ongoing lessons in setting boundaries, and so much more.

My son is now four years old, and he’s one of my greatest teachers. These children carry wisdom. All we have to do is observe and listen.

They are also powerful mirrors. They strike the most sensitive chords in us, push our limits, and reflect back the truth we often avoid.

I always wanted children. I imagined it would be beautiful and magical—and it is—but only through living it did I truly understand its depth. That kind of love can’t be put into words. Every mother knows.

How do I see motherhood and today’s children?

My parenting approach emerged naturally. I didn’t follow a manual—I followed what I felt was right.

As a parent, I see myself as a guide. Not someone above my child, but beside him. That’s the key difference from the “old world” parenting I observed and still see far too often.

I believe children choose their parents. They arrive needing full care, and as they grow, their needs evolve. But what never changes is the need for respect.

I respect my child as an equal being. I don’t see him as “less than.” I don’t believe I should control everything and expect him to blindly obey. That’s an outdated hierarchy—whether in parenting or in business.

In this “new world,” I see relationships as partnerships, regardless of age, title, or role. That includes our children.

I listen. I seek agreement.

Freedom is another important value for me. I don’t tell him what to paint, what to play with, or where his curiosity should go. I let him choose. Create. Explore. Live.

What I find crucial is this: not projecting our fears onto our children.

We all carry fears, often inherited or unprocessed. But we must try not to pass them on.

So I don’t yell, “Be careful! You’ll fall!” or panic at every move. Yes, it takes awareness and a big dose of trust in your child, and in life.

But ask yourself: Do we want our children to believe the world is a dangerous place—to hold back, to fear trying new things? Or do we want them to feel the world is safe, creative, and full of possibility? That they can trust themselves, and that we trust them?

That trust builds self-esteem, courage, and the inner strength to follow their gifts and intuition.

Of course, in truly risky situations—like running into the street—we step in. That’s what a guide does. We stop them, teach them to look both ways, and help them learn how to move through life with awareness. But when he climbs on the playground, I don’t stop him. I let him explore.

Motherhood is a vast topic. Every mother walks her own path and does her best. And that’s more than enough. Our children chose us, and they need exactly the life experiences we provide to prepare them for their journey.

To all mothers: I wish you love, strength, and the courage to care for yourself, too. It’s so easy to forget. But you matter just as much.

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